I say … and you think … ?
- Shame :: Game
- Business :: Card
- Cats :: Dogs
- Green :: Spring
- Politics :: Disaster
- Boston :: Beans
- Healthy :: Hearty
- Pint :: Gallon
- Owner :: Renter
- Sorrow :: Joy
I say … and you think … ?
29 January 2014 – Somewhere a bit north of Atlanta
It snowed yesterday. Not real hard, but it came down steadily for about 10 hours. I took some pictures out the front and back doors.
This morning, about 8:15, I went out on the deck in the 15̊F weather. In a sweater. Having a temp of about 99.3̊ (rheumatoid disease temp) at the time, I wasn’t very cold – in fact, 15̊F felt good.
It was so quiet! No traffic – even in the distance. Peaceful! Beautiful. Even in an in-town neighborhood I felt peace and calm come over me and into me.
It’s a day for staying home and staying warm. It will only go up to 31 today, so the street will not be melting out. A day for … hot chocolate with marshmallows in it! Yay! I LOVE hot chocolate with marshmallows in it!
I don’t think we’ll run out of milk or eggs before tomorrow. We’re good on meat and coffee and cream.
When I looked down at the driveway from the front door stoop, I saw a trail of little cat footprints. I know it’s the feral cat from next door. She refuses to stay indoors and prefers to be outdoors. Her coat is very thick and soft. Despite the cold, she is protected from it. I suspect she was looking for the trail of a chipmunk, mole or even a mouse. Although, we do have a few wild rabbits in our neighborhood, and she is muscular enough to take one down. She IS a cat after all! And even the most domesticated cat will become feral given the right circumstances.
Despite the fact the inside of the house looks the same, it doesn’t “feel” the same. There is 2 inches of snow outside. There is the quiet, peaceful, calm that snow brings. Time to think. Time to re-create. Time to remember…
… In Utah, I always knew when it had snowed during the night – the snow plows and the salt-and-sand trucks would drive through the neighborhood about 4AM, preparing the streets for morning traffic. But under and over the sounds of the trucks, was the muffling of the snow. I remember the first big snow, right after we moved into our house there. Suddenly – FOOOMP! – there were 4 feet of snow in the back yard!! And just as suddenly, the snow plows and the salt-and-sand trucks appeared to clear the streets.
There is something primitive about snowfall – perhaps especially in parts of the country that seldom get snow. We have no infra-structure to deal with it, so we have to just wait it out.
This time, it will last just a day. Tomorrow the temperature will be in the 40s, and we will go to the grocery to boost our sagging larder. It will be a largish shopping trip!
But for now, the temperature still hovers in the high teens and low twenties, and the snow is not melting – yet. Tracks in the backyard show that the feral cat is nesting under our shed. Temperature should be as high as 31 in the afternoon, then back down to 17 tonight, and quickly up to the 40′s tomorrow – and sunny. Today will be cloudy – no opportunity for the sun to shine directly on the streets and de-snow/de-ice them. And there are no salt-and-sand trucks in our town. In our 14 years here, this – snowfall – has happened only 3 times – this is the 4th. So there is no real reason for our small town to stock plows and salt-and-sand trucks.
The biggest snowfall we experienced in Georgia in recent years was the “Blizzard of ‘93.” We were living closer in to Atlanta and we did have some warning. We stocked up on essentials (and some “non-essentials”) well in advance. Good thing we did. 2 1/2 feet of snow accumulated on our front yard. The dog loved it, the cat disapproved. And we had 4 glorious days at home when Himself couldn’t get his truck out and up the hill. We don’t even try anymore. This time, we are just staying at home. And making sausage!
I hear our neighbor out “snow-blowing” his driveway. He’ll take off the top layer of snow, and salt down the ice that is under it. Maybe we’ll ask him to do that for us – then again, maybe not.
[Actually, his wife just called and asked if we'd like our driveway cleared off! What nice neighbors!!]
It’s a Hot Chocolate with Marshmallows day in Georgia!
The Exercise of a Schoolboy*
George Washington, sometime before the age of 16, transcribed Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation. (Original errors in numbering have been corrected; original spelling is unchanged.)
1st Every Action done in Company, ought to be with Some Sign of Respect, to those that are Present.
2d When in Company, put not your Hands to any Part of the Body, not usualy Discovered.
3d Shew Nothing to your Freind that may affright him.
4th In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise, nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet.
5th If You Cough, Sneeze, Sigh, or Yawn, do it not Loud but Privately; and Speak not in your Yawning, but put Your handkercheif or Hand before your face and turn aside.
6th Sleep not when others Speak, Sit not when others stand, Speak not when you Should hold your Peace, walk not on when others Stop.
7th Put not off your Cloths in the presence of Others, nor go out your Chamber half Drest.
8th At Play and at Fire its Good manners to Give Place to the last Commer, and affect not to Speak Louder than Ordinary.
9th Spit not in the Fire, nor Stoop low before it neither Put your Hands into the Flames to warm them, nor Set your Feet upon the Fire especially if there be meat before it.
10th When you Sit down, Keep your Feet firm and Even, without putting one on the other or Crossing them.
11th Shift not yourself in the Sight of others nor Gnaw your nails.
12th Shake not the head, Feet, or Legs rowl not the Eys lift not one eyebrow higher than the other wry not the mouth, and bedew no mans face with your Spittle, by approaching too near him when you Speak.
13th Kill no Vermin as Fleas, lice ticks &c in the Sight of Others, if you See any filth or thick Spittle put your foot Dexteriously upon it if it be upon the Cloths of your Companions, Put it off privately, and if it be upon your own Cloths return Thanks to him who puts it off.
14th Turn not your Back to others especially in Speaking, Jog not the Table or Desk on which Another reads or writes, lean not upon any one.
15th Keep your Nails clean and Short, also your Hands and Teeth Clean yet without Shewing any great Concern for them.
16th Do not Puff up the Cheeks, Loll not out the tongue rub the Hands, or beard, thrust out the lips, or bite them or keep the Lips too open or too Close.
17th Be no Flatterer, neither Play with any that delights not to be Play’d Withal.
18th Read no Letters, Books, or Papers in Company but when there is a Necessity for the doing of it you must ask leave: come not near the Books or Writings of Another so as to read them unless desired or give your opinion of them unask’d also look not nigh when another is writing a Letter.
19th let your Countenance be pleasant but in Serious Matters Somewhat grave.
20th The Gestures of the Body must be Suited to the discourse you are upon.
21st: Reproach none for the Infirmaties of Nature, nor Delight to Put them that have in mind thereof.
22d Shew not yourself glad at the Misfortune of another though he were your enemy.
23d When you see a Crime punished, you may be inwardly Pleased; but always shew Pity to the Suffering Offender.
24th Do not laugh too loud or too much at any Publick Spectacle.
25th Superfluous Complements and all Affectation of Ceremonie are to be avoided, yet where due they are not to be Neglected.
26th In Pulling off your Hat to Persons of Distinction, as Noblemen, Justices, Churchmen &c make a Reverence, bowing more or less according to the Custom of the Better Bred, and Quality of the Person. Amongst your equals expect not always that they Should begin with you first, but to Pull off the Hat when there is no need is Affectation, in the Manner of Saluting and resaluting in words keep to the most usual Custom.
27th Tis ill manners to bid one more eminent than yourself be covered as well as not to do it to whom it’s due Likewise he that makes too much haste to Put on his hat does not well, yet he ought to Put it on at the first, or at most the Second time of being ask’d; now what is herein Spoken, of Qualification in behaviour in Saluting, ought also to be observed in taking of Place, and Sitting down for ceremonies without Bounds is troublesome.
28th If any one come to Speak to you while you are are Sitting Stand up tho he be your Inferiour, and when you Present Seats let it be to every one according to his Degree.
29th When you meet with one of Greater Quality than yourself, Stop, and retire especially if it be at a Door or any Straight place to give way for him to Pass.
30th In walking the highest Place in most Countrys Seems to be on the right hand therefore Place yourself on the left of him whom you desire to Honour: but if three walk together the middest Place is the most Honourable the wall is usually given to the most worthy if two walk together.
31st If any one far Surpassess others, either in age, Estate, or Merit yet would give Place to a meaner than himself in his own lodging or elsewhere the one ought not to except it, So he on the other part should not use much earnestness nor offer it above once or twice.
32d: To one that is your equal, or not much inferior you are to give the cheif Place in your Lodging and he to who ’tis offered ought at the first to refuse it but at the Second to accept though not without acknowledging his own unworthiness.
33d They that are in Dignity or in office have in all places Preceedency but whilst they are Young they ought to respect those that are their equals in Birth or other Qualitys, though they have no Publick charge.
34th It is good Manners to prefer them to whom we Speak before ourselves especially if they be above us with whom in no Sort we ought to begin.
35th Let your Discourse with Men of Business be Short and Comprehensive.
36th Artificers & Persons of low Degree ought not to use many ceremonies to Lords, or Others of high Degree but Respect and highly Honour them, and those of high Degree ought to treat them with affibility & Courtesie, without Arrogancy.
37th In Speaking to men of Quality do not lean nor Look them full in the Face, nor approach too near them at lest Keep a full Pace from them.
38th In visiting the Sick, do not Presently play the Physicion if you be not Knowing therein.
39th In writing or Speaking, give to every Person his due Title According to his Degree & the Custom of the Place.
40th Strive not with your Superiers in argument, but always Submit your Judgment to others with Modesty.
41st Undertake not to Teach your equal in the art himself Proffesses; it Savours of arrogancy.
42d Let thy ceremonies in Courtesie be proper to the Dignity of his place with whom thou conversest for it is absurd to act the same with a Clown and a Prince.
43d Do not express Joy before one sick or in pain for that contrary Passion will aggravate his Misery.
44th When a man does all he can though it Succeeds not well blame not him that did it.
45th Being to advise or reprehend any one, consider whether it ought to be in publick or in Private; presently, or at Some other time in what terms to do it & in reproving Shew no Sign of Cholar but do it with all Sweetness and Mildness.
46th Take all Admonitions thankfully in what Time or Place Soever given but afterwards not being culpable take a Time & Place convenient to let him him know it that gave them.
47th Mock not nor Jest at any thing of Importance break no Jest that are Sharp Biting and if you Deliver any thing witty and Pleasent abstain from Laughing there at yourself.
48th Wherein wherein you reprove Another be unblameable yourself; for example is more prevalent than Precepts.
49th Use no Reproachfull Language against any one neither Curse nor Revile.
50th Be not hasty to beleive flying Reports to the Disparagement of any.
51st Wear not your Cloths, foul, unript or Dusty but See they be Brush’d once every day at least and take heed that you approach not to any Uncleaness.
52d In your Apparel be Modest and endeavour to accomodate Nature, rather than to procure Admiration keep to the Fashion of your equals Such as are Civil and orderly with respect to Times and Places.
53d Run not in the Streets, neither go too slowly nor with Mouth open go not Shaking yr Arms kick not the earth with yr feet, go not upon the Toes, nor in a Dancing fashion.
54th Play not the Peacock, looking every where about you, to See if you be well Deck’t, if your Shoes fit well if your Stokings sit neatly, and Cloths handsomely.
55th Eat not in the Streets, nor in the House, out of Season.
56th Associate yourself with Men of good Quality if you Esteem your own Reputation; for ’tis better to be alone than in bad Company.
57th In walking up and Down in a House, only with One in Company if he be Greater than yourself, at the first give him the Right hand and Stop not till he does and be not the first that turns, and when you do turn let it be with your face towards him, if he be a Man of Great Quality, walk not with him Cheek by Joul but Somewhat behind him; but yet in Such a Manner that he may easily Speak to you.
58th Let your Conversation be without Malice or Envy, for ’tis a Sign of a Tractable and Commendable Nature: And in all Causes of Passion admit Reason to Govern.
59th Never express anything unbecoming, nor Act agst the Rules Moral before your inferiours.
60th Be not immodest in urging your Freinds to Discover a Secret.
61st Utter not base and frivilous things amongst grave and Learn’d Men nor very Difficult Questians or Subjects, among the Ignorant or things hard to be believed, Stuff not your Discourse with Sentences amongst your Betters nor Equals.
62d Speak not of doleful Things in a Time of Mirth or at the Table; Speak not of Melancholy Things as Death and Wounds, and if others Mention them Change if you can the Discourse tell not your Dreams, but to your intimate Friend.
63d A Man ought not to value himself of his Atchievements, or rare Qualities of wit; much less of his riches Virtue or Kindred.
64th Break not a Jest where none take pleasure in mirth Laugh not aloud, nor at all without Occasion, deride no mans Misfortune, tho’ there Seem to be Some cause.
65th Speak not injurious Words neither in Jest nor Earnest Scoff at none although they give Occasion.
66th Be not forward but friendly and Courteous; the first to Salute hear and answer & be not Pensive when it’s a time to Converse.
67th Detract not from others neither be excessive in Commanding.
68th Go not thither, where you know not, whether you Shall be Welcome or not. Give not Advice without being Ask’d & when desired do it briefly.
69th If two contend together take not the part of either unconstrained; and be not obstinate in your own Opinion, in Things indiferent be of the Major Side.
70th Reprehend not the imperfections of others for that belongs to Parents Masters and Superiours.
71st Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of Others and ask not how they came. What you may Speak in Secret to your Friend deliver not before others.
72d Speak not in an unknown Tongue in Company but in your own Language and that as those of Quality do and not as the Vulgar; Sublime matters treat Seriously.
73d Think before you Speak pronounce not imperfectly nor bring out your Words too hastily but orderly & distinctly.
74th When Another Speaks be attentive your Self and disturb not the Audience if any hesitate in his Words help him not nor Prompt him without desired, Interrupt him not, nor Answer him till his Speech be ended.
75th In the midst of Discourse ask not of what one treateth but if you Perceive any Stop because of your coming you may well intreat him gently to Proceed: If a Person of Quality comes in while your Conversing it’s handsome to Repeat what was said before.
76th While you are talking, Point not with your Finger at him of Whom you Discourse nor Approach too near him to whom you talk especially to his face.
77th Treat with men at fit Times about Business & Whisper not in the Company of Others.
78th Make no Comparisons and if any of the Company be Commended for any brave act of Vertue, commend not another for the Same.
79th Be not apt to relate News if you know not the truth thereof. In Discoursing of things you Have heard Name not your Author always A Secret Discover not.
80th Be not Tedious in Discourse or in reading unless you find the Company pleased therewith.
81st Be not Curious to Know the Affairs of Others neither approach those that Speak in Private.
82d undertake not what you cannot perform but be carefull to keep your promise.
83d when you deliver a matter do it without passion & with discretion, however mean the person be you do it too.
84th When your Superiours talk to any Body hearken not neither Speak nor Laugh.
85th In Company of these of Higher Quality than yourself Speak not til you are ask’d a Question then Stand upright put of your Hat & Answer in few words.
86th In Disputes, be not So Desireous to Overcome as not to give Liberty to each one to deliver his Opinion and Submit to the Judgment of the Major Part especially if they are Judges of the Dispute.
87th Let thy carriage be such as becomes a Man Grave Settled and attentive to that which is spoken. Contradict not at every turn what others Say.
88th Be not tedious in Discourse, make not many Digressigns, nor repeat often the Same manner of Discourse.
89th Speak not Evil of the absent for it is unjust.
90th Being Set at meat Scratch not neither Spit Cough or blow your Nose except there’s a Necessity for it.
91st Make no Shew of taking great Delight in your Victuals, Feed not with Greediness; cut your Bread with a Knife, lean not on the Table neither find fault with what you Eat.
92d Take no Salt or cut Bread with your Knife Greasy.
93d Entertaining any one at table it is decent to present him wt. meat, Undertake not to help others undesired by the Master.
94th If you Soak bread in the Sauce let it be no more than what you put in your Mouth at a time and blow not your broth at Table but Stay till Cools of it Self.
95th Put not your meat to your Mouth with your Knife in your hand neither Spit forth the Stones of any fruit Pye upon a Dish nor Cast anything under the table.
96th It’s unbecoming to Stoop much to ones Meat Keep your Fingers clean & when foul wipe them on a Corner of your Table Napkin.
97th Put not another bit into your Mouth til the former be Swallowed let not your Morsels be too big for the Gowls.
98th Drink not nor talk with your mouth full neither Gaze about you while you are a Drinking.
99th Drink not too leisurely nor yet too hastily. Before and after Drinking wipe your Lips breath not then or Ever with too Great a Noise, for its uncivil.
100th Cleanse not your teeth with the Table Cloth Napkin Fork or Knife but if Others do it let it be done wt. a Pick Tooth.
101st Rince not your Mouth in the Presence of Others.
102d It is out of use to call upon the Company often to Eat nor need you Drink to others every Time you Drink.
103d In Company of your Betters be not longer in eating than they are lay not your Arm but only your hand upon the table.
104th It belongs to the Chiefest in Company to unfold his Napkin and fall to Meat first, But he ought then to Begin in time & to Dispatch with Dexterity that the Slowest may have time allowed him.
105th Be not Angry at Table whatever happens & if you have reason to be so, Shew it not but on a Chearfull Countenance especially if there be Strangers for Good Humour makes one Dish of Meat a Feast.
106th Set not yourself at the upper of the Table but if it Be your Due or that the Master of the house will have it So, Contend not, least you Should Trouble the Company.
107th If others talk at Table be attentive but talk not with Meat in your Mouth.
108th When you Speak of God or his Atributes, let it be Seriously & wt. Reverence. Honour & Obey your Natural Parents altho they be Poor.
109th Let your Recreations be Manfull not Sinfull.
110th Labour to keep alive in your Breast that Little Spark of Celestial fire Called Conscience.
*Washington, George. Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation: a Book of Etiquette. Williamsburg, VA: Beaver Press, 1971.
George Washington, as a boy, copied out these rules of civility and decent behavior from a Jesuit manual. Richard Brookhiser, in his book on Washington wrote that “all modern manners in the western world were originally aristocratic. Courtesy meant behavior appropriate to a court; chivalry comes from chevalier – a knight. Yet Washington was to dedicate himself to freeing America from a court’s control. Could manners survive the operation? Without realizing it, the Jesuits who wrote them, and the young man who copied them, were outlining and absorbing a system of courtesy appropriate to equals and near-equals. When the company for whom the decent behavior was to be performed expanded to the nation, Washington was ready. Parson Weems got this right, when he wrote that it was ‘no wonder every body honoured him who honoured every body.’”
Richard Brookhiser, Founding Father: Rediscovering George Washington (New York: Simon & Schuster Inc., 1996) pp. 130-131.
Well, I’m now up to 17,486 words. Not breaking any speed records, but continuing to work on the book. I’m doing some needed research. In the throes of NaNoWriMo, I didn’t take the time to do the research I need to do. So now is the research time. It’s better now than earlier, though. Several things need researching I didn’t even know back in November that I would need to know about! Ah, well! I’ll keep on working on it! I OWE it to Tevis, Punjab and Tevis’s children! [Tevis is the protagonist and Punjab is her Goldendoodle mobility service dog.]
I’m looking at wheelchair self-defense techniques right now. There are, believe it or not, several methods! But none of them are workable for someone with Rheumatoid Autoimmune Disease (RA). Neither are any of the Cane-Fu methods. OK. So where do I go from here in terms of her self-defense? Hee-Hee!! that’s a secret! :-D
In the meantime, I’m continuing to develop characters – Tevis, her children, Punjab, a few friends, and some other contacts. Writing a coherent, believable, mystery is a LOT harder than even I thought! I will persevere, however, despite multiple distractions (not the least being my ever-lovin’ husband, Himself! :-D)
See you later.
This has got to be the MEME of all MEME’s!
Ya’ know – there just aren’t enough hours and minutes in a day already, but I let myself get “sucked in” by NaNoWriMo [National Novel Writing Month], and now I find a mystery novel oozing out of my fingers. The name will be Left Wheel Forward. “An older woman, confined to a wheelchair and in chronic pain, gets out and about with her teen-aged grandson to help solve the murder of a neighbor. In the process she begins to learn self-defense techniques a disabled person can use, and puts them to use when the murderers attack her. Her family is unenthusiastic at first, wanting to protect her, but in the end they are proud of her independence and initiative.”
I understand that sometimes “characters don’t want to go there,” and that summary might change some. As I envision it, the protagonist is very loosely autobiographical. The events are not. I’ve never been involved in a murder – hope never to be involved in a murder. If I were, I don’t think I would get involved to the extent that my heroine does – but then, maybe I would! Won’t know unless it should happen – and I DON’T want it to happen to any of my family, friends, or neighbors! It’s fun, however, to play around with “what if’s.”
You can keep track of my progress with the widget in the right-hand column. I trust I will accomplish the goal of 50,000 words in November.
Recently, I’ve been going through Hyperbole and a Half. It’s a wonderfully humorous blog by “Allie.” She’s a wonderfully creative artist, and many of her posts reflect my inner child. This one explains my inability to address envelopes, open bills, put mail in the mailbox, and keep up with my e-mail!
Just like Allie, I have “spurts” of activity in which I try to “catch up” with everything I’ve left undone in my entire life! I have nightmares of trying to find where my final exams are being held (that was the quarter I had Mono and couldn’t attend most of my classes – I still wake up sweaty with tachycardia). My activity level goes from about 5% to 90%. I frantically rush from room to room, picking things up and putting them down somewhere else. Eventually, all energy gone, joints burning, muscles aching, I collapse in my precious recliner and lie back. All the things I picked up are now in the wrong places, but different wrong places than previously. The Swiffer dry mop is leaning crookedly against the wall in the dining room instead of in the cleaning closet. The Swiffer duster is resting precariously on the edge of the buffet. The litter pan is empty in the bathroom. I need to refill it. The cat is yowrling – needs to be fed – Emmy is staring at me – she needs food, too.
I’m sitting, compulsively playing “Majong Titans.”
Finally, I drag myself up, feed Emmy, fill Magnus’ litter pan, and tell Himself I love him, and to please don’t be mad because I “did it again.” Himself hugs me.
Maybe next time . . .
I’m no artist, like Allie is. I’d search for more appropriate illustrations, but it’s just too much for me to handle at this point.
The question of the day is: What invention, as in something not yet invented (jetpack, teleportation ring, time machine) do you most need right now?
My answer: A bionic body that would work better and without pain than my current body does. I’d like to be able to exercise without pain so I could lose weight. I’d like to be able to go places with my grandchildren – without pain! I’d like to be able to go to the mall – without pain!
A bionic body would take care of the joint and back problems. Maybe it would also take care of the muscle problems.
That’s what I (and Himself) need – right NOW!!
Actually, what REALLY bothers me is that so much is made of such minimal personalities. All Bieber has going for him is his youth and incipient talent – which needs MUCH improvement, practice and seasoning. All GaGa has going for her is shock value. I’m not impressed with her singing ability. As a cartoon from the 40′s said, “OK – she can’t act, she can’t dance, she can’t sing…” She isn’t even enjoyable for anyone over 16 or 17.
The whole celebrity bit bugs me. Just being a celebrity IS NOT a reason for the Walk of Fame, for multiple photo layouts, nor for big concerts costing an unbelievable $75 and up per seat. For KIDS to go to??? To see half-talented, and shock-talented TWERPS??
Yeah – ALL this annoys me.
I’ve posted this in other blogs, but I don’t think I’ve posted it here. This is one of the most beautiful Paschal hymns, and it is performed touchingly and joyously by this group of Serbian Orthodox Christians. Their purpose in making this video is to increase awareness of the need for restoration of the medieval Serbian Orthodox Christian Monastery “Pillars of St. George.”
Hristos Voskrese! Voistinu Voskrese!
Christ is Risen! INDEED HE IS RISEN!
From Patrick’s Place comes a meme that I really think I can get into:
name seven of your favorite action/adventure, comedy or dramas that might qualify for the category of “guy movies.”
OK, that’s my “official” list, approved by Himself. I’d like to add a few more, though:
Well, that’s the list! But it will always be incomplete – we will discover other movies to be added in the future, and new movies are being made all the time.