Morningside Drive

16 April 09

[Archive #14]

Filed under: Archive,Marriage — by turtlemom3 @ 6:54 pm

Too Long!

Too long since I last posted anything here! Several friends had bad results from their blogs, and I became “leery.”

One of my DH’s friends sent this to him (it goes around the internet from time to time):

“Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954

“Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

“Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

“Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

“Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

“Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

“Some don’ts: Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

“Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

“Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

“The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. “

I remember that textbook! (Guess that dates me, hunh?) And I thought it was a bunch of hooey back then!

Well, I love my DH’s response to his friend (he copied me):

“Yeah — I’ve seen this. I prefer a companion with some brains & spunk. Any man that has to marry a maid has serious problems.”

O Joy! what a great guy!

Posted by Elizabeth at 6/15/2005 06:51:00 AM



  1. I don’t remember this as a textbook — Catholic schools didn’t believe in home ec — but there was certainly a lot of it in the ladies’ magazines of the time, and I absorbed every word as though it were gospel. Most of it now makes me roll my eyes, but the one thing I’ve never been able to shake is the Ann Landers/Dear Abby columns (also from that time) with the letters from widows who would write about how much they had hated their husbands’ snoring, and had said all kinds of nasty things to the guy about it, and after his death (every single one wrote), “What I wouldn’t give to hear that dear man snoring next to me now!” That bit of experience has stood me in very good stead over the years — don’t stress about the little things, because the day WILL come when you would give anything on earth to have them back.

    Comment by Mrs. Mutton — 17 April 09 @ 6:30 am |Reply

    • All too soon, I’m afraid. Being closer to 70 than 60, my friends and acquaintences are dropping like flies. (I know a lot of people in their 80’s). My aunt and uncle of whom I write frequently, have both declined rapidly in recent history. The uncle has come close to dying several times in the past week. So it’s just a matter of a few more weeks or months for him, I’m afraid. Once he’s gone, she won’t be long for the world.

      And the Ol’ Curmudgeon – I just can’t let myself think about it.

      Comment by turtlemom3 — 19 April 09 @ 12:59 pm |Reply

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